Yesterday this blog was featured on Rockstar Finance and received a massive influx of traffic as a result. When so many new people find the blog it’s inevitable that a small fraction of them will find something to complain about, or take the time to email me and let me know how or why my opinion on something I’ve posted is incorrect.
I’m always happy to hear differing opinions, but complaining for the sake of complaining? I don’t understand that at all. What’s the point?
“Make it be a good day.” That was the advice I was given nearly every day for six years. Today, I’m passing that advice along to everyone else, especially to all the complainers out there.
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MAKE IT BE A GOOD DAY
Graduating from elementary school to jr. high more than excited a younger version of myself for two reasons. First, I was going to get a locker! The thought of having my very own locker got me all sorts of pumped up and I really don’t know why? It’s kind of funny to look back and remember how stoked I was about it.
The other thing that excited me was the fact that I was finally going to get to ride a bus to school. I’d always wanted to ride the bus but I didn’t live on a bus route while I was in grade school, so I had to walk or ride my bike each day. But I was now a mighty 12 year old and was finally getting the chance to ride the bus.
When the first day of jr. high arrived, I was prepared. I’d packed a few posters into my backpack so that I could decorate my locker and I’m pretty sure that I’d also laid out the clothes I was going to wear the night before. I was feeling confident that morning as I started to walk out our front door, when out of nowhere my dad stopped me by yelling out, “Hey, Ty! … Make it be a good day today.”
Uh… sure thing, pops. I guess?
And with that, I was off to conquer jr. high. And for the next several years, whether I was rushing out of the house to catch the jr. high bus, or hopping in my car to drive myself to high school, a nearly identical scene played out like that each morning.
I’d make my way closer to the front door, knowing what was coming, but it wasn’t until I had one foot outside that dad would holler out, “Hey Ty!”
Grrr! Couldn’t he tell me this BEFORE I was halfway out the door?!?
“Make it be a good day!” Dad would cheerfully remind me.
The essence of ‘make it be a good day’ is personal responsibility. You don’t get a say in what happens to you, but you do get to control how you react. So why not react in a way that’s useful?
Tomorrow’s blog post sounds grumpy as hell. Wasn’t supposed to be. I need to tone it down a bit, but am running out of time. #GrumpyOldMan
— Ty Roberts (@GetRichQuickish) February 20, 2017
((( note from Ty — this is where my post originally started to turn negative. I’ve deleted significant portions of the original post and distilled it down to this single paragraph – now get off my lawn! )))
Life isn’t fair. Never has been, never will be. Some people seem to have an easier path while others just can’t seem to catch a break. Whatever side of that equation you fall on, deal with it. Face it. If you don’t like something, make it better. Change probably won’t be convenient, or easy, and it won’t happen fast, but it sure beats the hell out of wallowing in a situation that you don’t want to be in.
DON’T COMPLAIN. IT DOESN’T HELP AND NOBODY CARES
Today I’m able to thrive on a single income, but it certainly always been that way. My wife and I are in the financial position we’re in today because many years ago we decided that we didn’t like the direction our life was headed in, so we did what it took to change directions. It wasn’t easy. It wasn’t fast. But we made it happen, and you can too.
From time to time we can all feel sorry for ourselves for some reason. And we all like to complain about it sometimes as well. But here’s the thing – nobody wants to listen to a complainer. Think about that serial complainer you know. Do you enjoy being around that person? Probably not. Nobody likes to be around someone that gripes and moans about everything.
Instead of complaining, look for ways to improve whatever it is you’re complaining about. If you can’t think of any ways to improve, check out the Three Solutions Rule and see if that gives you any ideas.
If you’re trying to improve your financial situation you can:
Instead of wishing for a better life – do something to make your life better. Wishing is a waste of time. So is complaining.
If you want something – go get it! Relentlessly eliminate the BS from your life and eventually you’ll have a life that’s mostly free of the BS.
WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?
For six years (three years of Jr. High and three years of high school) I got the same daily reminder from Dad to “make it be a good day.”
The advice definitely sunk in. Even all of my friends knew about my daily reminder from dad and they never failed to throw the advice at me when something less than optimal would happen to me at school. They were teasing me at the time, but I’d bet large sums of money all remember my dad’s advice to this day.
One of my best friends from high school was also my roommate during my freshman year of college. We jokingly made a “Make It Be A Good Day” sign and hung it above our door. Each morning as we’d leave our apartment and head to our classes, we’d slap the sign on our way out.
Now that I’m a dad I’ve passed the advice on to my kids. Although I’m not as diligent with the daily reminders and my dad was, I say it enough that they all know the saying by heart.
I hope it sticks with them as much as it stuck with me. I hope you can find some value in it as well. In fact, I’ve created this fancy, schmancy Make It Be A Good Day image for you.
Pin it, Tweet it, share it,print it, or make it your phone background (that’s what I’ve done), but whatever you do today, make it be a good day!
Attitude is so important in life and with your personal finances. What do you to try and maintain a positive attitude?
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